Pablo Picasso, Maternity (1930)
Dear friends,
Bob lost his father a few months ago and has since written a series of eulogies he didn’t give at the funeral. I have a hundred pages of these heartfelt, heartbreaking eulogies that will one day be a book that I’m certain would become such an essential part of many lives. You’ve probably read or will read some of his eulogies in the New Yorker and/or elsewhere. Here’s one of the few we’ve published at ONLY POEMS. More to come soon.
May death spare our loved ones until it can,
Karan
The eulogy I didn’t give (XIII)
by Bob Hicok
Good parents make dinner. Provide the food, the table, the spoon, the fork, the home. Teach you to shovel snow, catch fireflies, shave, use a tampon. Explain light bulbs, stars, the dark. Remove thorns of trees and attempt to extract larger thorns, like heroin if it stabs you. Drink little, or none, or a lot. Try to lift you higher in the sky than they ever got. And stand next in line for death, between you and your last breath. When your parents are gone, the final bit of your childhood runs away from home. You're an adult now and on your way, alone.
Oh, yes. I've often tried to capture with words my feeling about having no generation "above me" anymore - and yes, "the final bit / of ... childhood / ran away from home."
How can you not love this poem?